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03/01/10

The Multiple Benefits of Lipstick and Obedience

My mom has always insisted that lipstick is a girl’s best friend. Remember how I told you she reads a lot and is always telling the family what “they” say about this and that. Well, lipstick is one of those this and thats. According to the experts people pay more attention to what you’re saying when your lips are carefully painted a pleasing and vibrant color. My mom wanted her 5th grade students to pay attention to her, so she always had on her lipstick. I want people to listen to me too, so I try to wear a little color on my lips.

Mom can swipe on a coat of dark rosy lipstick and have on no other make-up and, voila, she looks great. Me, not so much. I have noticed though that if I have the rest of my make-up on but no lipstick, something doesn’t look quite right. Then when I put even just a little lipstick on, my eyes suddenly light up. Now how is that? How does lip color make your eyes pop? But it’s true.

Well, now that I’ve spilled my make-up secrets and lost half of my readers, I’ll get to the point of this post.

Ever on the prowl for the perfect shade of lipstick, I have way more tubes of the stuff than a girl should. A few years ago I was at one of those brunches we girls like to go to and I’d been admiring the cute little centerpiece someone had decorated the table with. It was one of those simple little things that you look at and say, “I could make that,” but you never do.

At the end of the brunch, the hostess announced that everyone was supposed to look through their purses and pull out all of their lipsticks. You know where this is going don’t you? Well, I pulled lipstick after lipstick after lipstick out of my purse. The women around me were amazed. And the sad thing is, I’d just cleaned my purse out so I really didn’t have as many tubes as I sometimes do. But I handily had the most.

And then the hostess announced that whoever had the most tubes of lipstick at each table could take that cute little centerpiece home with them. My affinity for lipsticks had won me a dandy little springtime bouquet just in time for Easter!

Who’d have known that my mom’s instructions to keep my lips painted could one day result in me winning not just the attention of those I’m speaking to, but a centerpiece to boot?
And that’s how good advice works. When we take good advice and apply it diligently, the benefits are often multiplied beyond our expectations.
“You shall walk in all the way 
which the Lord your God has commanded you,  
that you may live, and  
that it may be well with you, and  
that you may prolong your days 
in the land which you shall possess.” 
(Deuteronomy 5:33)

These are the words God gave Moses to pass on to His people just after giving them the 10 commandments. Notice that God left the benefits of obeying Him wide open. He simply said things would “be well with you” if they obeyed. In fact, He used that exact phrase 10 times in the book of Deuteronomy to describe the results of obeying His commands consistently.

Sometimes we forget that the consequences of our actions have a ripple effect. Not only does adultery, for instance, result in broken trust and a possible broken marriage, but it affects the children, the extended family, friendships, finances, integrity, etc. Ripple, ripple, ripple.

But it’s not only our negative behavior that has far-reaching consequences. According to God’s mandate here in Deuteronomy, our positive actions result in a plethora of positive consequences as well. In fact, just this past week I heard that a parent’s behavior and way of “doing life” plays out in that parent’s descendants’ lives for an average of four generations. Amazingly (or not so amazingly) that sociological “finding” matches up with what God says in the Bible too! That means that your consistent wise choices can potentially cause things to “be well” for your children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren and even great-great-grandchildren!

My mom told me to wear lipstick and I generally do. For what it’s worth, I’ll pass that same advice down to my daughter (though her perfectly cherry Angelina Jolie lips don’t really need any help!) and she’ll probably be more likely to follow suit simply because she’s seen me apply lipstick most every day of her life. The lipstick will come in handy with the stage career she is planning, but it might win her a door prize too if she’s lucky. Still, I can’t say life will necessarily “be well with her” just because she pauses to color her lips.

But the results of following God’s directions in the Bible? Multitudinous! Life will definitely be well. Not always perfect, but well. And who knows just what that may mean in any given life? God’s left the definition of a life gone well wide open for a reason. It may mean good health. It may mean long life. It may mean wonderful friendships, lots of travel, good food, peaceful sleep, precious memories, effective ministry, a godly heritage, or a blessed family life.

It may mean you do the right thing because you feel it’s good advice and you end up getting way more than you bargained for…

PS – For those of you who’ve enjoyed my parenting posts and want to read more on that perilous topic, head over to my friend Shelly’s place today. She’s posting her weekly Intentional Parenting series each Monday. Good stuff! 

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  1. Beth E. says

    March 1, 2010 at 8:06 pm

    God also says in those commandments to honor your father and your mother, that you may live long and that it may go well with you…

    We honor our parents through our obedience. Your mom told you to wear lipstick and you do. Who would've thunk it…that by wearing your lipstick, you are honoring your mother?! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    I enjoyed this post so much.

    Hugs,
    Beth
    P.S. I enjoy wearing lipstick, too, and have many tubes of it. We should compare notes, sometime! lol

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  2. Angie says

    March 1, 2010 at 10:33 pm

    Great encouragement once again, Kay! Wow!! It is such great advice to listen to advice, especially from Christlike, Godly individuals, such as yourself, and it was encouraging to be reminded about the blessings of obedience versus the VERY negative consequences from disobedience or going against Godly advice. Thank you!

    I'm also a BIG lipstick person. ๐Ÿ™‚ I even find myself (sometimes) putting on lipstick right before going to bed, which when I was growing up, would drive my parents nutty. They never could understand why I liked to wear lipstick so much. It was one of the first things they warned Tom about when he first met my parents during our engagement. I don't know why I love lipstick so much. I guess I just like having moisturized lips. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Have a blessed evening,
    Angie

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  3. Kristen @ Moms Sharpening Moms says

    March 1, 2010 at 10:48 pm

    I love the word, "multitudious". Fabulous!

    I also carry around tons of lipstick and am addicted to it!! I'm a little gunshy on the bright colors, however. Maybe I ought to branch out a little?

    Thanks so much for writing this. I find it so encouraging that all the good teachings I try to impart will produce good fruit beyond what my present-state-of-mind can see. I love that the ripple effect can be a positive thing, not just a negative. Phew! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Have a great week! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  4. Shelly @ Life on the Wild Side says

    March 2, 2010 at 2:00 am

    Well, you wonderful, sweet girl! Thank you so much for pointing your readers in my direction. I just love that you did that!

    And I am laughing so hard because on any given day I've probably got 4 or 5 different tubes of lipstick AND a tube of Carmex in my purse. It gets heavy, you know? ๐Ÿ™‚

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  5. 365 Days of The Roll Family says

    March 2, 2010 at 4:12 am

    I can relate and I have been told that too! If you look in mine I have a couple and chapstick too!
    Love It!

    Reply

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